So whats going on is this chick who's my ex wife and mother of my kid keeps giving me shit calling me a dead beat father and saying horrible things to me like "I wish you would die" and "My boyfriend will replace you as your sons father" Today I got fed up of it and let her know that I had been keeping screenshots of her BS. I let her know if she kept up with her ridiculous behavior I would post the pictures on facebook and tag everyone she knew just so they could see how bad of a POS she was. but instead I'll post these here where no one knows who I am talking about. I seriously need some input on this one.
She has been unemployed for almost a year and a half, she went to school for some stupid cosmetology stuff. While she was in school I paid for all of my sons day care and her car, along with everything they both needed (after having been divorced for a year already) Over the course of her unemployment I have spent somewhere around 6000-7000 dollars on everything while making 12 dollars an hour at first then with a raise to 14. At points I had to put food and such on credit cards and have earned an incredible amount of debt. She got her tax return this year for 4300 dollars and didn't spend a penny on our son. She spent her money on clothes for going out and starbucks.
We attempted to work on our relationship sometime around last July and everything went good for a while until she started cheating on me after I had moved an hour and a half further from work to work on our relationship. Also she didnt start with this batshit craziness until after we broke up a week before christmas (Where i paid for everything) Now she is mad cause I refuse to watch our son so that she can go on vacation after having been unemployed for as long as she has. anyways here's some pics enjoy.
((P.S. This is me straight up being a dick to her being sick of her shit and only bits and pieces of the conversation, it starts off with her asking me for more money when i gave her 300 dollars for her car and 170 dollars for day care and she only put 120$ towards the day care and pocketed the rest))
She has been unemployed for almost a year and a half, she went to school for some stupid cosmetology stuff. While she was in school I paid for all of my sons day care and her car, along with everything they both needed (after having been divorced for a year already) Over the course of her unemployment I have spent somewhere around 6000-7000 dollars on everything while making 12 dollars an hour at first then with a raise to 14. At points I had to put food and such on credit cards and have earned an incredible amount of debt. She got her tax return this year for 4300 dollars and didn't spend a penny on our son. She spent her money on clothes for going out and starbucks.
We attempted to work on our relationship sometime around last July and everything went good for a while until she started cheating on me after I had moved an hour and a half further from work to work on our relationship. Also she didnt start with this batshit craziness until after we broke up a week before christmas (Where i paid for everything) Now she is mad cause I refuse to watch our son so that she can go on vacation after having been unemployed for as long as she has. anyways here's some pics enjoy.
((P.S. This is me straight up being a dick to her being sick of her shit and only bits and pieces of the conversation, it starts off with her asking me for more money when i gave her 300 dollars for her car and 170 dollars for day care and she only put 120$ towards the day care and pocketed the rest))
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Step 1: Steal your kid.
Step 2: Run like fuck.
Step 3: Don't look back.
I'm from a family, where, when I was 4 years old my parents had quite a messy divorce, and yeah I know it might have been difficult for my mum and dad, but it was so hard to deal with when you're 4 years old and being used as a tool in their arguments and being passed from pillar to post between parents new houses and you really don't know if you're coming and going, proper screws with you.
Now when you're 4, you tend to be able to get over most of this stuff and move on, and I dunno how old your kid is, but serious, you need to get this sorted before he gets older, trust me it only gets worse. I'm 18 and my parents still fight like cat and dog whenever they see each other, 14 years later and used to slag each other off to me, and it really, really hurts, and you're son will end up resenting either you or his mum.
I'm not saying what she's doing is right, it's far from it, but you need to stay calm and take this through the courts, any right minded judge would rule in your favour, but don't give her ammo. But for your sons sake, stay calm, be civil, be the adult and don't use exposing her on Facebook as a threat, it'll only come back and bite you in the butt later on.
If I am correct, here's what you do:
1) Get that procedure set in stone. I'm talking about a legal document that she has signed. This will mean that you are no longer responsable for paying for her every whim. She will only get what she would need to take care of the kid on the weekdays. Any other money she may want is her problem (ie: getting a job).
2) Right now you have the advantage: she is unemployed and has been for some time. You have been paying for nearly everthing, and if you have the recipts that show what and how much you have payed, you can prove it. You MUST do what you have to do to get this agreement signed and official while you have the advantage.
3) You MUST have physical proof if this comes before a judge. If you let this come down to a "He-Said/She-Said" kind of fight, the woman usually has the advantage. For example, the credit card recipts that show you shelling out money for her college and daycare expences, it also wouldn't hurt to somehow find out how much she actually spends every week on your kid.
Anyways, Is there anyway you could get full custody of your child? I suppose the women always have the advantage in the court from what I've seen. But lucky for me, my grandparents have full custody. Or you could just reply to all of her texts 'And how old are you?' because she looks like she's acting immature.
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You seem to be the better person in this ordeal but that makes you seem a bit childish.
Other than that, good luck dealing with the psycho, and I hope your kid doesn't get dragged into this conflict.
she's really stupid and I can't imagine how she could ever do anything right with that attitude!
...If that dosn't work kick her in the taco, take the kids and run like hell
What I'm saying is I feel your pain.
I know you think she's a psycho and you hate her right now....I've been there......but in like 5 years.......your still going to think shes a psycho and you'll still hate her, but as far as your kid is concerned, you have to be friend with her, it sucks, but she's in you life now till the kid turns 18, 25 if he goes to college while living at home.
If you can't get custody, then you need to get yourself to court and have an agreement set up so if she breaks the agreement you can take it to the courts, you pay a set amount, visitation is for set days and times. It's the only way it will work.
Unfortunately you can't control what she does, only set some legalities in place. Best bet, go for custody, you don't need to prove she's an unfit mother, just that your a more fit father.
1. you have the finances to care for your child
2. u actually care about simon since you send her money to pay for his care
3. you are the only source of money she is recieving
4. you are his biological payment
5. taken her to court and with all the evidence you would easily win
6. she wants to ditch the kid with you so she can go on vacation after being unemployed for a year and a half
7. ???????
8. profit