The friend zone?
So there's this girl I've known for years now and I've developed feelings for her and I really like her. We're best friends and we can chat for HOURS (she goes to a different school but I do see her time to time at some occasions). The thing is, she doesn't like me back which I really don't get! I mean, we used to chat for hours and talk about everything. I professed my feelings for her three times and all three times she said no. However, she kept telling me that I was her best and closest friend and you all know how much that sucks x.x But in all honesty, I am her best friend. Eventually, when I came to college, I couldn't take it anymore. I had to break off all ties. Eventually I ended up blocking her on chat even though I really do like her. The problem is that she might come to my college next year! AGH why does this friend zone thing exist! I don't understand why she doesn't like me x.x I think one of the problems may have been the fact that I dont actually see her that much so it would have been difficult to develop feelings for me but if she does come here, should I start talking to her again. should I unblock her? The risk is that she might just put me in the friend zone again...even though we could hang out everyday. I just don't get it x.x Any advice?
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Posted: 2011-11-13 15:23:02
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A no is just a yes that requires more persistence.
or more alcohol. although chlorform works faster
chloroform by itself is legal its what you do with it...
Posted: 2011-11-14 14:26:18 Report
Ok, the same thing happened to me but i somehow managed to get it twice, i dated one she said it was weird after 6 months so i developed feelings for someone else, and at first we were friends talking for hours online ect, but now ive been in a very cloce relationship for 6 1/2 months i love her
from what i have seen anything is possible it just has to be with the right girl, i made a romantic gesture, and it all worked out.
but i do have the ability to talk my way into and out of anything,
but i think that if you have asked 3 times and been shot down just remember these words
god these helped me
from what i have seen anything is possible it just has to be with the right girl, i made a romantic gesture, and it all worked out.
but i do have the ability to talk my way into and out of anything,
but i think that if you have asked 3 times and been shot down just remember these words
god these helped me
hmm i see; yea, I think I'll just have to wait it out and see (school work is hard enough). The thing is that I'm not really looking for a relationship, I don';t think I have time for one. I just want to know if she liked me of not so that when I/we are ready it could work out but life's just not a fairy tale. thanks bro! :D
If she's not in to you; she's not in to you.
Just fuck some other bitch. You don't need to cry about it.
I started talking to a girl that goes to a dif school. We talk ALL day. You know what I did? I didnt wait for months, 2 weeks later, I asked her to date me. She said yes. Always gotta be there early BEFORE she sees you as a brother.
You know, I don't think the friend zone exists. It never made any sense to me, because if a person doesn't make a good friend, how would they make a good girlfriend/boyfriend? What is a girl/boy friend other than a good friend, only with a bit more...intimacy, shall we say?
What the "friend zone" is, (and don't take this the wrong way) is a polite way to tell someone that you don't find them physically attractive and don't want to hurt their feelings. How do I know this? Because I've used this an excuse before, to avoid hurting a girl's feelings any more than I have to by rejecting her.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to insult you, or call you ugly. I'm sure you're a decent looking guy. But we don't all like the same things, and some people are much more shallow than others. They can't help it. She might come around eventually for all you know. But don't sever contact or block her, it's a dick thing to do.
What the "friend zone" is, (and don't take this the wrong way) is a polite way to tell someone that you don't find them physically attractive and don't want to hurt their feelings. How do I know this? Because I've used this an excuse before, to avoid hurting a girl's feelings any more than I have to by rejecting her.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to insult you, or call you ugly. I'm sure you're a decent looking guy. But we don't all like the same things, and some people are much more shallow than others. They can't help it. She might come around eventually for all you know. But don't sever contact or block her, it's a dick thing to do.
dude im goin the same exact thing right now. and yeah it really sucks but if i were you i would unblock her and start talking to her again. at the very least youll have one of your bestfriends back. i dont know how you feel about that but i would rather be friends with the girl i like as oppose to nothing at all. and maybe youre right about her living somewhere else so she didnt have feelings for you so i think the best thing to do would be to start talking to her again and if she comes to your school then just keep trying man. dont listen to the people that say you cant get her. they dont know man.
well yeah but if shes your friend then she likes you just not as a boyfriend. trust me man its way better to just be friends then nothing at all. i had to stop talking to the girl i like for quite a while it really sucked. were talking again and were bestfriends but im in the same boat as you man. if anything youll get to make her feel better when shes sad and i love that feeling when i make her feel better. so theres that if anything. i hope this makes sense man.
I see. well I unblocked her and the first thing she did when she came back online was msg me the second she saw that I was online. So...I guess that's a good sign? IDK. True it might be better and yes, it does suck that we can't go out. Do you think that the fact that we don;t get to spend enough time together could be the problem?
i wouldn't advise trying to date her again but the heart wants what it wants. if you think it's worth at the very least being friends with her then talk to her but at the same time just explain why you blocked her for a bit. try and get over her and don't dwell in the end things will work out. forcing it won't get you any where though.
haha that's so true. I wish I was like one of my friends who just doesn't like girls. There was this hot chic at my high school and she fell for HIM. she was quite attractive! and my friend just got annoyed at how this hot chic was always bothering to talk to him.... i found that really ironic. It's like those who focus on other things other than love...find love the best. HE was also one of my friends who ended up getting into Cal-Tech lol so he's REALLY smart.
lmfao that may have come off weird saying you wish you didn't like girl :P dude honestly don't bother looking for love right now you're to young besides like i said don't force it. love happens at the least expected times. it's happening to me right now with my gf. trust me it works out.
me too.....you cant call them that it kinda happens like when im not in a elationship i have friends wit benefits but i cn lose em when i get in one....but it might be a race factor idk
be friends at least there is no reason not to. See what happens. dont be the best friend type. act like your not interested in her. go to partys and talk to other girls. just because she is there is shouldnt change anything. be friends and maybe things wil change if you do what i said. you cant rely on the fact that she will like you. you will still have to talk to other girls.
yeah lol. try to make here your wingman sometimes. girls are the perfect wingman. oh and i should mention if she doesnt like you like that she can still be your friend. but i think you get it so ill stop rambling
:0 are you me?
exact same here other than the blocking and the college thing
exact same here other than the blocking and the college thing
Point out that your best friend is your best match. From what you've told us, she and you are already in love. Just not ready for that type of relationship yet.
Another word of advice, never settle. When you two hang out, make a move. Normally if she does even remotely like you she'll follow along.
Start by trying to hold her hand. Or do something extremely drastic like on the notebook, dangerous to your life but dont be stupid about it.
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