The friend zone?

So there's this girl I've known for years now and I've developed feelings for her and I really like her. We're best friends and we can chat for HOURS (she goes to a different school but I do see her time to time at some occasions). The thing is, she doesn't like me back which I really don't get! I mean, we used to chat for hours and talk about everything. I professed my feelings for her three times and all three times she said no. However, she kept telling me that I was her best and closest friend and you all know how much that sucks x.x But in all honesty, I am her best friend. Eventually, when I came to college, I couldn't take it anymore. I had to break off all ties. Eventually I ended up blocking her on chat even though I really do like her. The problem is that she might come to my college next year! AGH why does this friend zone thing exist! I don't understand why she doesn't like me x.x I think one of the problems may have been the fact that I dont actually see her that much so it would have been difficult to develop feelings for me but if she does come here, should I start talking to her again. should I unblock her? The risk is that she might just put me in the friend zone again...even though we could hang out everyday. I just don't get it x.x Any advice?

rwar - the friend zone?

  • Mizuno
  • November 13, 2011, 3:23 pm
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    When a girl says no, they mean no xD

    A no is just a yes that requires more persistence.
    - triclebickle November 14, 2011, 12:13 am
    Or more chloroform.
    - Ertrov November 14, 2011, 1:17 am
    or more alcohol. although chlorform works faster
    - buddyfoeva November 14, 2011, 1:37 am
    Depends on how creative you are with the alcohol.
    - Ertrov November 14, 2011, 1:44 am
    i have a couple tricks up my sleeve
    - buddyfoeva November 14, 2011, 1:52 am
    I would try all of these....I'm pretty sure none of these are actually....hmm how do I put xD
    - Mizuno November 14, 2011, 10:10 am
    Alcohol is legal.
    - CTUDirector November 14, 2011, 11:30 am
    well age requirements lol but yea, it is legal
    - Mizuno November 14, 2011, 11:41 am
    chloroform by itself is legal its what you do with it...
    - buddyfoeva November 14, 2011, 2:26 pm
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    Ok, the same thing happened to me but i somehow managed to get it twice, i dated one she said it was weird after 6 months so i developed feelings for someone else, and at first we were friends talking for hours online ect, but now ive been in a very cloce relationship for 6 1/2 months i love her
    from what i have seen anything is possible it just has to be with the right girl, i made a romantic gesture, and it all worked out.
    but i do have the ability to talk my way into and out of anything,
    but i think that if you have asked 3 times and been shot down just remember these words
    0001 - the friend zone?

    god these helped me

    • BEASTY
    • November 13, 2011, 7:45 pm
    hmm i see; yea, I think I'll just have to wait it out and see (school work is hard enough). The thing is that I'm not really looking for a relationship, I don';t think I have time for one. I just want to know if she liked me of not so that when I/we are ready it could work out but life's just not a fairy tale. thanks bro! :D
    - Mizuno November 13, 2011, 10:54 pm
    :) your welcome
    - BEASTY November 14, 2011, 3:00 am
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    to quote a great line from waiting, "there are only two things that could happy when you ask a girl out. she says no and you never talk to her again, or she says yes, you have sex, and then you never talk to her again."

  • 3

    If she's not in to you; she's not in to you.

    *sigh* such is life....*cries*
    - Mizuno November 13, 2011, 7:17 pm
    Just fuck some other bitch. You don't need to cry about it.
    - BlurrySours November 13, 2011, 8:39 pm
    Hell, or just fuck a dude. Mix things up.
    - Ertrov November 14, 2011, 1:18 am
    I like the way this man thinks.
    - Boltarrow5 November 14, 2011, 3:15 am
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    I started talking to a girl that goes to a dif school. We talk ALL day. You know what I did? I didnt wait for months, 2 weeks later, I asked her to date me. She said yes. Always gotta be there early BEFORE she sees you as a brother.

    You meet a girl and ask her out in less than a month. You are the 1%...
    - dogggy November 13, 2011, 9:25 pm
    I meet a girl, talk with her forever, ask her out and get rejected, get put into friend zone, I am the 99% (Yes I know I should have put it all together but I didn't >.<)
    - dogggy November 13, 2011, 9:27 pm
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    You know, I don't think the friend zone exists. It never made any sense to me, because if a person doesn't make a good friend, how would they make a good girlfriend/boyfriend? What is a girl/boy friend other than a good friend, only with a bit more...intimacy, shall we say?

    What the "friend zone" is, (and don't take this the wrong way) is a polite way to tell someone that you don't find them physically attractive and don't want to hurt their feelings. How do I know this? Because I've used this an excuse before, to avoid hurting a girl's feelings any more than I have to by rejecting her.

    Now don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to insult you, or call you ugly. I'm sure you're a decent looking guy. But we don't all like the same things, and some people are much more shallow than others. They can't help it. She might come around eventually for all you know. But don't sever contact or block her, it's a dick thing to do.

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    Just try your very best at keeping enough contact with her, you never know how things turn out. Best to have tried and failed, than to do nothing and still fail.

    Or you can always go with this
    got that bitch some chloroform bitches love chloroform

    • Omen
    • November 14, 2011, 1:30 pm
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    dude im goin the same exact thing right now. and yeah it really sucks but if i were you i would unblock her and start talking to her again. at the very least youll have one of your bestfriends back. i dont know how you feel about that but i would rather be friends with the girl i like as oppose to nothing at all. and maybe youre right about her living somewhere else so she didnt have feelings for you so i think the best thing to do would be to start talking to her again and if she comes to your school then just keep trying man. dont listen to the people that say you cant get her. they dont know man.

    • exile
    • November 13, 2011, 5:11 pm
    but i mean like wouldn't it just hurt more if I start talking to her and she doesn't like me at all?
    - Mizuno November 13, 2011, 6:13 pm
    well yeah but if shes your friend then she likes you just not as a boyfriend. trust me man its way better to just be friends then nothing at all. i had to stop talking to the girl i like for quite a while it really sucked. were talking again and were bestfriends but im in the same boat as you man. if anything youll get to make her feel better when shes sad and i love that feeling when i make her feel better. so theres that if anything. i hope this makes sense man.
    - exile November 13, 2011, 6:48 pm
    I see. well I unblocked her and the first thing she did when she came back online was msg me the second she saw that I was online. So...I guess that's a good sign? IDK. True it might be better and yes, it does suck that we can't go out. Do you think that the fact that we don;t get to spend enough time together could be the problem?
    - Mizuno November 13, 2011, 7:14 pm
    yeah that could be a huge problem man. and yeah its a good sign, she missed talking to you so youre good so far.
    - exile November 14, 2011, 10:34 pm
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    i wouldn't advise trying to date her again but the heart wants what it wants. if you think it's worth at the very least being friends with her then talk to her but at the same time just explain why you blocked her for a bit. try and get over her and don't dwell in the end things will work out. forcing it won't get you any where though.

    haha that's so true. I wish I was like one of my friends who just doesn't like girls. There was this hot chic at my high school and she fell for HIM. she was quite attractive! and my friend just got annoyed at how this hot chic was always bothering to talk to him.... i found that really ironic. It's like those who focus on other things other than love...find love the best. HE was also one of my friends who ended up getting into Cal-Tech lol so he's REALLY smart.

    - Mizuno November 13, 2011, 7:16 pm
    lmfao that may have come off weird saying you wish you didn't like girl :P dude honestly don't bother looking for love right now you're to young besides like i said don't force it. love happens at the least expected times. it's happening to me right now with my gf. trust me it works out.
    - 24paperwings November 13, 2011, 7:40 pm
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    ....friends with benefits

    hahaha not too many girls are into that these days :/ i wonder why......
    - Mizuno November 13, 2011, 10:52 pm
    me cant call them that it kinda happens like when im not in a elationship i have friends wit benefits but i cn lose em when i get in one....but it might be a race factor idk
    - xxkisamexx November 14, 2011, 12:54 am
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    be friends at least there is no reason not to. See what happens. dont be the best friend type. act like your not interested in her. go to partys and talk to other girls. just because she is there is shouldnt change anything. be friends and maybe things wil change if you do what i said. you cant rely on the fact that she will like you. you will still have to talk to other girls.

    hmm I see what you're saying.. that does make sense. Looks like it's time for me to get back in the game ;)
    - Mizuno November 13, 2011, 10:52 pm
    yeah lol. try to make here your wingman sometimes. girls are the perfect wingman. oh and i should mention if she doesnt like you like that she can still be your friend. but i think you get it so ill stop rambling
    - buddyfoeva November 13, 2011, 10:58 pm
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    :0 are you me?
    exact same here other than the blocking and the college thing

    Yea it seems to happen a lot. I just have to find a way to tell her that I'm not looking for a relationship but rather, just want her to like me so,(to put it crassly) the option is always there for me...
    - Mizuno November 14, 2011, 10:12 am
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    Can someone find a good way to explain the difference between becoming really really REALLY close friends w/ someone and being in a relationship with them? (of the opposite gender...)

    • Mizuno
    • November 14, 2011, 10:12 am
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    Point out that your best friend is your best match. From what you've told us, she and you are already in love. Just not ready for that type of relationship yet.

    hmm IDK. True that i'm not ready but she won't even admit that she likes me, in fact, she denies 'liking me that way' lol. w/e...i should honestly just focus on something else like academics.
    - Mizuno November 14, 2011, 2:47 pm
    Another word of advice, never settle. When you two hang out, make a move. Normally if she does even remotely like you she'll follow along.
    - CTUDirector November 15, 2011, 9:57 am
    what do you mean by that exactly. like put my arms around her etc...?
    - Mizuno November 15, 2011, 2:28 pm
    Start by trying to hold her hand. Or do something extremely drastic like on the notebook, dangerous to your life but dont be stupid about it.
    - CTUDirector November 21, 2011, 9:27 am
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