Fellow Sharenators...
ok, i am dating my friends ex and at first he was pissed, but then he got over it we became friends again, but today while i was canoeing around with my girl friend, she is like i need to tell u something about my ex,
her "he basically raped me"
me "how far did he go"
her "well im not a virgin anymore"
my heart sank.
so my question is should i kick his ass, let it be, or tell some one, even though she doesnt want me to tell any one
her "he basically raped me"
me "how far did he go"
her "well im not a virgin anymore"
my heart sank.
so my question is should i kick his ass, let it be, or tell some one, even though she doesnt want me to tell any one
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Posted: 2011-07-23 18:28:13
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basically same thing i was trying to get at but you explained it a hell of a lot better lmao
why would you date his ex? If you want his after taste so bad just go get it from the source. Lol jk I have no fucking idea what to do or why im in this post at all. I thought that would fit in here though I guess. Im gonna get the hell out now.
We're just a terrible species, us females. If the break up was a bit of an 'unpleasant' affair then yeahh, she might be making it up...
Oooor, she's covering for a mistake she's made in the past and can't face that. I will never condone anyone who claims rape seriously to get back at someone, lives have been destroyed for both girls and boys by people who have or claim rape, trust me I've seen what it does to people.
I can understand it being an awkward subject to bring up with your ladyfriend, but you need to get facts straight on both sides before you do anything. Don't want to end up being up shit creek without a paddle if it turns out she was exaggerating, now, do you?
Oooor, she's covering for a mistake she's made in the past and can't face that. I will never condone anyone who claims rape seriously to get back at someone, lives have been destroyed for both girls and boys by people who have or claim rape, trust me I've seen what it does to people.
I can understand it being an awkward subject to bring up with your ladyfriend, but you need to get facts straight on both sides before you do anything. Don't want to end up being up shit creek without a paddle if it turns out she was exaggerating, now, do you?
C'mon now... not ALL women are terrible...
me being the person I am would make some calls and within a day my "friend" would be at the bottom of the Puget Sound wrapped in a soccer net and heavily weighted and his apartment would be very well cleaned by a "cleaner" (think of mr. clean working for the mob) his car would also finds its way into the ocean. But in your case I would confront him with the intent of beating his ass if you can't get hard evidence of rape.
kick his ass, then tell someone. then kick his ass again
hmmmmm i don't know what to say because i don't know her so looking at this from here it looks like she could be trying to get rid of him or start drama. don't take this out of consideration. just think did they have a bad break up? don't hate me but it's true some girls are manipulative like that. i don't know her but from my point of view it's possible.
well she hates his fuking guts so yea, and she doesnt want me to hang out with him any more, i probably wont cuz he isnt the best person, he smokes n shit, but im still pissed, would u be pissed if u found out ur gf was rapped in her last relationship? if so what would u do
thing is i don't think i would believe her. I know it's awkward to talk to her about but make sure you ask some details about what actually happened. also look at the way she tells you. if she's real calm about it then you should have some doubts. personally i don't know who i would trust. the guy seems a bit violent but then again they had a bad break up and no you're going out with her with out his consent from the start. but this girl may also be telling the truth about whats going on. personally i like to believe the best in people so i would have to go with she's lying. the fact that she had a bad break up with him didn't help her case either. I've known girls to go make up shit to start drama and make consensual acts look completely different. if thats the case then watch your back because you may have landed yourself a crazy one.
remember the lessons barney has taught us all
remember the lessons barney has taught us all
I wouldn't do anything too drastic just yet, you may want to get his side of the story first
tis true but hoew would i approach him
me" hey did u rape so and so"
hahaha
me" hey did u rape so and so"
hahaha
Yeah yeah, I understand the awkward factor of this.
when he found out...well i told him i was dating his x, he went on a rampage i guess threatening to kill his lil bro,he going destroying things and then going outside and then throwing a cinder block around, not to mention kill me(i could take him)
....Kill his little bro... because you are dating his ex? This does not seem like a mentally stable person at all. If he really is this big a raging asshole then there is a possibility that he raped her.
But there's also the possibility that she is trying to get back at him for his past abuses, he may not have raped her, but it's quite possible that he beat her down mentally.
But there's also the possibility that she is trying to get back at him for his past abuses, he may not have raped her, but it's quite possible that he beat her down mentally.
O_O you may want a neutral party there whom you can trust.
yea, i got some friends like that, i think ill just leave it alone, not hang out with him and just ignore him...thank god he is going to an alternative school
Talk to him about it. Tell him what she said and analyze his reaction. Even if she is exaggerating, there probably is a specific event she is referring to. Then just do what you feel is right based on what he says. But tell her you're gonna talk to him first. Just let all parties know what's going on and the truth will come out. Don't assume anything, and just talk to them.
This just sounds like drama. I've known many female Marines who tried to ruin their ex's career and life by claiming to be raped, when it turns out they were full of it the entire time. Now granted, I'm not saying she is lying, but from my personal experience, if the girl hates the guy, she is either claiming rape to start drama, get back at the guy because he broke her heart, or just justify a bad decision that the girl made when she consented to sleeping with the ex and now she regrets it.
Granted this is just my two cents worth from experience that I've witnessed with women in their 20s. Women can be very vengeful...